A new year means new goals and new intentions. Have you ever set a New Year’s resolution only to forget what it even was by May? Well, you’re not alone.
As we move into a new year, a time of new beginnings and self-reflection, I invite you to join me in focusing on something new this year: habits.
Yes, habits, the seemingly small things that make up our days, but ultimately shape our lives. This year, what would happen if we focused on cultivating self-awareness around what habits may be stopping us from achieving our career goals or keeping that New Year’s resolution, instead of simply focusing on the goal itself?
For example, a personal goal may be to exercise more. To achieve this, we can decide to start with considering what specific habits are stopping us from reaching that goal. This could be sleeping through our alarms, or driving straight home instead of stopping at the gym. If you ask Gretchen Rubin, author of "Better Than Before: Mastering the Habits of Our Daily Lives," habits are powerful because “when we change our habits, we change our lives.”
Rubin has mastered the art of habits, and let me tell you, she has this down to a science. Rubin conducted extensive research on the topic and discusses it in a fun, approachable way in her book which is our pick for the January Mavenly + Co. Book Club.
In "Better Than Before," Gretchen Rubin explains why the only way to change our habits and live happier lives is through first being more aware of ourselves. Rubin found that there are four ways that people approach their habits. She calls these attitudes “tendencies,” which are how people respond to expectations. These expectations can be outer expectations (like a work deadline) or inner expectations (a resolution to run every day). Rubin discusses these tendencies at length in the book and says if you first understand your tendency, then you can begin to change or adopt new habits. After you learn your tendency, Gretchen Rubin gives advice on setting a good foundation for habits and where to start once you decide what you want to work on.
If you are interested in learning which tendency describes you, there’s a quiz you can take to help determine which tendency fits you. (I would highly recommend taking it before reading the book).
We had a blast chatting about Rob Bell’s inspiring book, “How to Be Here” for the December book club, and hope that everyone took away some great insight about discovering your purpose and finding more meaning in your life.
And because we are so excited about "Better Than Before," we are going to spend a little extra time reading it. We hope you will pick up a copy and join us for a discussion on Facebook Live on Feb. 8th at 8 p.m. EST.