It’s hard out here for women. We’re still underpaid, underestimated and under-appreciated, and having candid conversations about how we are still acting, speaking and moving in a manner created by society –– and how that mentality inhibits us on a daily basis.
Ladies, it’s time to take a stand and make a change in our lives, specifically how we move in our professional and personal lives. Here are a few tips to changing your mindset and moving like the independent woman you are!
No is a Complete Sentence
See? Complete sentence. Not a segment, a prepositional phrase –– a complete sentence that requires nothing more than just…No. You don’t have to explain why you’re taking a day off, or why you don’t want to go to grad school, or why you don’t want to go on that date with the boy your best friend set you up with. No is an acceptable answer. Feel free to use it.
Be Self Aware.
No one knows you better than yourself, and that also means you know when things don’t feel right. Channel your inner Olivia Pope, listen to your gut and act. If you’re in a situation that doesn’t feel right for you, whether it’s a toxic relationship or an unfulfilling job, make moves that will restore your good feelings. It may be hard, but it’s on you to bring your happiness and well-being to the forefront.
Ask for What You Want
As the rapper Ace Hood once said, “Closed mouths don’t get fed on this boulevard.” And he was right. You want that raise? Ask for it. You want that dream job? Create it. Speak up and ask for the things you want, and don’t think your requests or questions are dumb. Because if you ask them with the frame of mind of what is best for you, then there’s nothing dumb about it. Or don't ask and just take it. That works too.
Be Unapologetically You
We’ve been told for years: “Be yourself.” It’s time to remix it: “Be yourself, unapologetically.” Don’t apologize for your ambition, or the fact that you tell yourself that you are hot stuff every morning, and don’t let anyone tell you different. If you like anime and geek out, don’t apologize for it. If you’re a closet Taylor Swift fan (although, who really isn't?) and your friends don’t get it, don’t apologize for that either. Don’t want to go to law school like your parents want? Don’t apologize for wanting to follow your own plan and your own dream.
Be unapologetically you, because you should never apologize for doing what’s natural –– loving yourself.